HAPPINESS: What life has taught me about happiness:
Posted on 22nd February 2021 at 17:21
HAPPINESS IS A CHOICE
I want more! I need more! I’ll be happy when I have……………More money. A better job. A bigger house. A nicer wardrobe. The perfect partner. The holiday of a lifetime. Loose weight.
We all want more. It’s human nature. However, all of these external things are merely temporary fixes. None of them will grant us lasting happiness. Not one.
I understand that we all have hopes and dreams to aspire to, and that is a wonderful thing. However, Happiness is found in the present moment & not in the future. It is found in the here & now, in what you already have. Granted, this may not be the easiest pill to swallow, if you are noticing what other people have and wishing you had the same, similar or more.
But, learning to feel satisfied with what you already have is without doubt, achievable for us all & the foundation on which you will build a brighter & happier future for yourself. With that in mind here are just a few tips that will help you to feel Happier, immediately.
Do not Compare yourself to others.
Do your best to stay focused on your own path, and forget the rest. In the end, what everyone else is doing has little to no impact on your own success and happiness.
Comparison has become all too easy today with seemingly perfect lives constantly on display across social media platforms. We’re happy with our lot until we see somebody looking better than us, living in a bigger house than us, having a better job than us… the list goes on (and on).
It is almost impossible not to fall into this trap, so I won’t preach about it because I’m also guilty of it from time to time!
However, it is important to remember that someone else’s success isn’t your failure. And, beyond that, you should endeavour to embrace your uniqueness, your talents & gifts. You’re different people with different lives.
Think About WHY you want something.
It’s excellent to seek to improve your life, so long as you have a valid reason for doing so.
Check in with yourself often, and determine exactly what is feeding your desires.
For example, to want a better job so that you are secure financially & can easily pay bills & live a decent life, is a very valid reason indeed. If you want to change jobs just because you’re envious of somebody else, it is guaranteed a new job will not make you happy.
If you find that you yearn for change from a pure place, and you feel this change will see your life grow & evolve in a positive way, then you have an amazing reason to be inspired & motivated!
On the other hand, if you are acting from a place of begrudgery and a longing to keep up with the Joneses, you need to re-evaluate and go back to basics by being grateful for what you have now. Somebody else’s dream, will not make you happy.
Have an Attitude of Gratitude
This is easy to do when everything is going in your favour. The challenge is to feel grateful when things are not going as you would wish. That is the hard part.
Very often, we concentrate on what we don’t have & we totally neglect to appreciate what we do have.
We all want more. And, to some extent, that’s a good thing. But, if you spend every spare moment only thinking about all of the things you don’t have yet, you’re setting yourself up for a life of stress and disappointment.
It’s vital to learn to be happy with what you have right now. While you may not have what you want, or need, to dwell on this will not improve your circumstances. What will improve them is focusing on what you do have. Like attracts like. It’s a universal law.
There is a very simple & easy way to do this, and that is to have an Attitude of Gratitude. A grateful person is far happier than a person who lives from a place of feeling lack constantly. I promise, it works & is scientifically proven by many studies.
Quite simply, list at least 3 (but aim for 10) things both morning and night that you are grateful for. Now to list is easy. The trick is you must FEEL the feeling of Gratitude - that is where the power & transformation lies.
This technique pulls your attention away from all of those things that you feel you don’t have, and instead makes you remember all of the blessings that you do have. Fall asleep thinking about all of the positives in your life because there’s no better way to end the day.
Do NOT expect somebody else to make you happy.
While it is wonderful to be in a relationship, if you’re happiness is dependant on that other person, you are setting yourself up for a fall.
Your happiness is on you. It is your responsibility & nobody else’s.
To give your power away in that manner cannot & will not lead to real happiness. You must learn to be happy alone, before you can be happy with another. Otherwise, you will loose your identity, your authenticity, your power & your peace.
Believe me, I’m speaking from experience so I don’t say these words lightly.
Know your worth & strive to reach your potential, whatever that may be, every day of your life. Know it’s OK to take a break, in fact it’s extremely necessary, and don’t beat yourself up if you don’t accomplish in a day what you had hoped. Dust yourself off, know you did your best and try again tomorrow.
Know the difference between happy moments & happiness.
And always remember, you deserve the best life has to offer. So, be your own best friend & you’ll be amazed at how the Universe rises to meet you!
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