FORGIVENESS: What life has taught me about Forgiveness:
Posted on 16th February 2021 at 15:27
What is true forgiveness?
This is what Psychologists say... forgiveness is a conscious, deliberate decision to release feelings of resentment or vengeance toward a person or group who has harmed you, regardless of whether they actually deserve your forgiveness. ... Forgiveness does not mean forgetting, nor does it mean condoning or excusing offenses.
I totally agree.
However, the reason for Forgiveness in my opinion is the thought worth your consideration.
It should also be said, that very often the person we need to forgive is ourselves. This can be an extremely difficult thing to do & it requires perseverance.
So, WHY should we forgive?
The answer is easy; because we deserve better.
Better than a life filled with resentment & fear-based emotions because we can never truly reach our potential or live a life of joy & fulfilment if we hold on to grudges & refuse to forgive ourselves or others.
In the moment you choose forgiveness, you are choosing YOU. You are choosing life, love & a fulfilled future. You are choosing those you love.
You are NOT condoning the action that you feel needs forgiving. Not at all.
Simply put, forgiveness is the decision to ‘let it go’ because you know you deserve better. In choosing forgiveness you are acknowledging your worth & that is a wonderful place to be.
Most of all, forgiveness is an act of strength because you reclaim your Personal Power the very moment that you choose to let it go & know you deserve so much more.
I understand we all reach the point of forgiveness at different times in our lives, as we each have our own journey to walk, our own lessons to remember. Some of us will never reach the point of forgiveness in this lifetime, and that’s OK.
My experience of forgiveness;
I have turned my ‘story’ into one of hope, inspiration & overcoming. I choose life. I choose joy. I choose me.
Was forgiveness an easy process? Definitely not.
• I experienced abuse as a child.
• Being bullied in school.
• A failed marriage.
• A failed relationship after that.
• I was not the mother I should have been, taking an array of medication daily to numb the pain of my day to day life & the failure I felt my life was at that time.
• I’ve lost all of my money – twice.
• The loss of my identity is by far the worst thing I lost & it took a huge amount of self-nurturing to find ‘me’ again, perhaps for the first time.
I found myself at 43 years old having a breakdown of sorts. Really it was an awakening. I know this now.
When you loose everything, there’s nothing left to hide behind.
• Here, Resilience is born.
• Here, Self Love is born.
• Here, Forgiveness is the only option.
Forgiveness is the act of letting it go, acknowledging your worth & pledging to work each day of your life, to live that day to the best of your ability.
When you have the ability to forgive, you become untouchable & so very powerful.
(PS if you cannot cut ties completely with the person that hurt you, then try to limit time to as little as possible with boundaries in place).
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